As a woman and the mother of a daughter I am angry. I am angry that cases like Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa are still happening. These young women were just walking home and were picked off by Men who harmed them purely because they can.
I am sick of a culture that makes it acceptable to treat women as possessions, to use and abuse women, to vilify women, to blame women and to mistreat and murder women. Since the death of Sarah Everard there have been 80 murders of women in this country by men; see the article below from the Northern Echo
I am sick of worrying about my own daughter walking short distances and she is sick of being catcalled, of men shouting out of cars at her and those men thinking she should like it.
I am sick of women being blamed for men’s atrocious behaviour because of how they were dressed, where they were, what they did. There is never an excuse for violence, EVER.
I am sick of women in power not supporting women, god knows, Margaret Thatcher didn’t and Priti Patel and Cressida Dick certainly don’t. Women are being told to flag down a bus if a lone policeman tries to arrest her. The North Yorkshire police commissioner, Philip Allott, has stated that Sarah should never have “submitted” to a fake arrest and that women “need to be streetwise” about the powers that officers have. What chance do we have when that is the attitude of those who are supposed to protect us?
My first job after university was for a massive corporate company where sexism was rife. I was agency staff and really wanted a permanent job there. My boss at the time told me that I could have the job if I slept with him, it was terrifying, I was a single young girl hundreds of miles from home. I was petrified of the man, he bullied me continually. I got the job without sleeping with him, but the culture there really shocked me. If one of the male managers put their hand on your arse while talking to you, you accepted it and you didn’t complain. I hated it.
That was over 20 years ago and yet here we are, women may have more rights at work (allegedly) but attitudes to women in this country have got even worse. When Incels are not treated as a terrorist group even after murders, when measures which could protect women are not maintained. When women are described as ‘ bodies with vaginas’ in a medical paper and when women are being murdered by men at an alarming rate, it’s time to say enough is enough.
Men need to start saying this isn’t right, men need to be pulling other men up on their behaviours, men need to whistle-blow in the workplace when women are too scared to. Women need to support other women, none of this competitive crap. Let’s look out for each other.
We all as parents need to educate our boys better.
I can’t believe we are still dealing with this bullshit, but we are, and we need to deal with it now. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH