We all have that one friend – nights out that involve alcohol…

A popular meme doing the rounds

This meme popped up on my social media today. I have seen it a few times, in the past, I would have giggled and laughed at it. Especially, when friends tagged me. Today I shuddered because that was me. A night out for me was always Russian roulette as to what would happen.

Trepidation

Drinking nights out would always start with me having a glass of wine whilst I was getting ready. Although I really enjoyed this part, in the back of my mind I would always wonder if I was going to be okay or was tomorrow going to be full of regrets? Sometimes, I would even go so far as to say a little prayer that I wouldn’t do or say anything stupid. That didn’t work often!

Emotions and reality

I have read that some people feel that they are actually allergic to alcohol and that is why they react in a much more extreme way to others. I honestly don’t know if that is true. I tend to think that often our reactions are based on how much we have drunk and what our emotions were like at the start of the night.

I think the fact that those of us who have a propensity to drink way too much is a massive contributor as to why our reactions are so extreme. I would always moan and complain that it was me who would get into trouble, it was me who would end up in the hospital, me who would cheat, me who would argue. But the truth is it was me who would be drinking faster than everyone else and me who was drinking way more than my friends.

Wishing I could drink like a normie*

I used to be very jealous of friends who knew when to stop. Who could drink and their personality wouldn’t change, who could drink and basically not be a dick. I would cringe the next day when I realised that again, I had forced people to listen to me sing, or thought that my dancing was so good that everyone was copying me (they weren’t)! And that’s just the funnier sides. As we all know, drinking can make you completely out of control. Causing arguments, fights, crying, general horrible behaviour. I now shudder at the thought.

The truth is I can’t drink like a ‘normie. I will always need more than one or two and if you choose to leave your drink, then there is a good chance that I will finish it for you. It’s also the truth that I don’t ever know how an evening will end if I choose to drink. There is a huge chance that I will end up like the unfortunate girl up there.

No worries…

One of the major pluses now that I no longer drink is that I do not have to worry about my behaviour on nights out. My actual main worry is that because I am actually a bit of an introvert, I will have come across as a bit boring. But I will take boring every time over chaotic, dangerous and embarrassing.

Much love,

B xxx

Beth@newly-sober.com

*a normie is an individual who can order a beer, not finish it and walk away without a second thought. – https://lakehouserecoverycenter.com/blog/what-is-a-normie/

3 thoughts on “We all have that one friend – nights out that involve alcohol…

  1. I like how you compared you going out to a game of Russian roulette! Perfect description of myself also!❤️I’ve been clean over 11 years now and I don’t use the term boring anymore – I am just very relaxed ❤️💜❤️ Love this post thank you kindly 🙏👏

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    1. Thank you. Boring is perhaps the wrong word, perhaps I should have said bored? I had no idea that drunk people were so boring when I was one! 😂

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  2. No more Russian Roulette (1 usually played with 5 bullets 😥) on a night out and what a relief and joy it is.
    We’re not boring B. We’re lovely 🥰 😂 Keeping it real xxx

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